Working on fathering with men who use violence

Discover the motivation that makes the difference

Children living in households with intimate partner violence (IPV) are more than witnesses; they are always also victims of the violence in their parents' relationships. Effects of exposure to IPV and domestic violence are often severe and long-lasting, continuing intergenerational cycles of abuse, trauma and harm. When perpetrators understand the impact of their behaviour on their children, it usually becomes a core motivation that leads them through the process of change. Additionally, men who use IPV tend to lack capacities for child-centred parenting, which need to be developed. This two-day enables you to effectively work with fathers who use violence, motivate them to make much-needed changes and equip you with engaging tools and techniques.

Learn how to

  • Mobilise men’s care for children as motivational factor for stopping their abuse
  • Ensure that safety and healing of children are central to the work done with fathers who use intimate partner violence
  • Assess perpetrators as parents
  • Address men who use violence in their parental role
  • Cooperate with child protection services

Training agenda

  • Learn how to introduce impact of intimate partner violence on children in an engaging and effective way
  • Understand the concept of children’s resiliency and how to support it
  • Understand how perpetrators can cause direct and indirect harm to their children
  • Learn how to apply psychoeducational work on the topic in the overall perpetrator programme
  • Learn how to assess parental competencies of the men in your programme
  • Get tools to addres the lack of parental competencies with men who use intimate partner violence
  • Understand the concept of trauma and how it intersects with domestic violence
  • Learn techniques for leading men who use violence through their own experiences and how to connect these insights with parenting
  • Learn how to raise personal stories and work on individual level with men in group
  • Learn how to work with feelings of shame
  • Understand the complexity of high conflict separation and its impact on children
  • Learn how conduct child-centred perpetrator work in these cases
  • Understand concepts of child-centred parenting, positive behaviour management and modeling
  • Apply these concepts in your work in strengthening men’s parental capacities
  • Build your skills in effective cooperation with child protection services
  • Understand your role and how you can contribute to the safety and wellbeing of children

The trainer

Kate Iwi

Kate Iwi has 30 years experience working in this field and has also worked for a large aid organisation, developing child protection policies in international settings. Kate wrote her first domestic violence perpetrator programme back in 2000 and has since developed programmes in other parts of Europe and Lebanon. In 2011, she co-authored "Picking up the Pieces After Domestic Violence: A Practical Resource for Supporting Parenting Skills" (Jessica Kingsley; April 2011). A further book in the series, "Engaging with Perpetrators of Domestic Violence: A Handbook for Early Intervention", was published in January 2015. In 2017 she co-authored the "Reprovide programme", which forms the basis of the UK's first large scale RCT into domestic abuse perpetrator programmes, and in 2018 she wrote the Drive "Behaviour Change Toolkit" for work with high risk/ high harm perpetrators. She currently runs a Domestic Abuse Perpetrator Programme (DAPP) within the Child protection system in the UK.

I found the training very relevant to my role working 1:1 with perpetrators. I really enjoyed the active participation, being able to share views, and the excellent resources and videos. I enjoyed the training and will implement things I learned.